tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post5150239706881834098..comments2023-10-16T06:48:29.967-04:00Comments on A Single Journey: This used to be my playground...Michaelahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-23093528041288983392012-11-29T23:05:11.725-05:002012-11-29T23:05:11.725-05:00Wow, I see how that was hard to read ... Sorry yo...Wow, I see how that was hard to read ... Sorry you ended up reading it.Genkicathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16588371829033093762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-73497852165826905062012-11-26T17:15:17.401-05:002012-11-26T17:15:17.401-05:00I guess what irks the crap out of me is that is re...I guess what irks the crap out of me is that is revelation of being thankful for her infertility comes now that she's pregnant...really don't think that would be the case if she was still struggle or never ends up becoming a mother...Michaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-6115612395329203292012-11-26T09:30:33.856-05:002012-11-26T09:30:33.856-05:00I can kind of get where both schools of thought I&...I can kind of get where both schools of thought I'm seeing here are coming from. <br /><br />I'm infertile. I have no idea when my happy ending will come, if it will ever come. <br /><br />There are times I've only angry that I've been made to go through all of this, that I've lost 3 babies while everybody else gets married and procreates easily and the self-pity that ensures from these times makes me feel like I've been run over by a truck. I HATE feeling like that. Its adding insult to injury. Then there is the rest of the time where I can look at everything else I've been through and say, well, atleast this experience has made me aware of my own strength and so its not wholly negative, and its been a teaching experience beyond anything I could have imagined.<br /><br />That is when I feel normal and mostly ok with life, as opposed to a train wreck, so I get Keiko's post(because I automatically think that way, 70 % of the time), and I also get your response to it, because I'm that way the remainder.<br /><br />Though I will say, right now, I can't comprehend not taking it all back if such a thing were possible. If I could rewrite this story, I sure as hell would. Learning experience or not, I'd rather be shallower and sillier and less aware of my latent strengths, if it meant that my first baby was here with me. <br /><br />Jayhttp://aboutplanb.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-1421916023819612302012-11-24T05:23:59.467-05:002012-11-24T05:23:59.467-05:00Your anger is justified. A post like that would un...Your anger is justified. A post like that would understandably sting but when posted on a blog called The Infertility Voice? A double whammy Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-39915217935566378122012-11-23T16:37:17.034-05:002012-11-23T16:37:17.034-05:00I agree that I find the second post much easier to...I agree that I find the second post much easier to handle. I know that I will never be grateful for this experience. I am grateful for having the chance to pursue my donor embryos when I knew there were no other doors open to me (though occasionally I think my aunt had it easier back in the day when there were no options- she just had to accept- something I still struggle with on a daily basis). Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-50319140478088978682012-11-23T15:14:56.489-05:002012-11-23T15:14:56.489-05:00Ugh, I read the first two lines of that post and c...Ugh, I read the first two lines of that post and clicked the "close" button. Whatevs. I am not grateful for one damn thing this process has brought me. I already knew I was stronger than hell before this. I already knew my true friends had my back. I already knew I was independent. I already knew how horrible IF was (having worked in that field for 8 years) and I already knew that suffering existed in the world and was visited upon those who least "deserved" it. <br /><br />Am I supposed to look at IF like it's my graduate or doctorate degree in "Being a Survivor"? If and when I ever get to hold my baby in my arms I will be grateful for that fact. The time between then and what I've been through since? Not feeling all that grateful and never will.A Shadow of My Former Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09828440343398303476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-58641868313786697342012-11-23T12:50:03.760-05:002012-11-23T12:50:03.760-05:00That's true.
My mother is a cancer survivor...That's true. <br /><br />My mother is a cancer survivor. I know she's grateful she came through it and for all of the love and support she received, and I think it gave her a greater appreciation for life, but I know that she will never be grateful that she got cancer in the first place. Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14101535107377688458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-79050585714319640102012-11-23T10:47:38.257-05:002012-11-23T10:47:38.257-05:00To be grateful for what you've learned and how...To be grateful for what you've learned and how you processed it is one thing but to say you are grateful for the cause...something that destroys so many...hurtful to those it's still destroying...Michaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-32420948523006472202012-11-23T10:20:28.896-05:002012-11-23T10:20:28.896-05:00I had seen Keiko's post pop up in my feed, but...I had seen Keiko's post pop up in my feed, but I had no intention of reading it. Until now. <br /><br />I get what you - and Chickenpig - are saying about it. It's so much easier to be thankful for a horrible thing when you're on the other side of it. But when you're living it? Yeah, not so much. And I know that if I had experienced the loss of a pregnancy - or multiple pregnancies - I would never find a way to feel gratitude about going through that hell. <br /><br />It's a tricky thing, though, because I have to say that there are aspects of my journey that I *am* grateful for, and that gratitude came before my pregnancy. I'm grateful that I'm no longer ignorant about infertility and how devastating it is, and I'm grateful that I've gotten to know so many amazing women along the way. But I also know that infertility damn near killed me. There were many days where I didn't want to go on because it was so painful. So...I don't know. Can one be grateful and ungrateful about something at the same time? Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14101535107377688458noreply@blogger.com