tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post7944286218281169219..comments2023-10-16T06:48:29.967-04:00Comments on A Single Journey: Loose Lips...Michaelahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-41944894026900438892011-05-23T21:36:37.941-04:002011-05-23T21:36:37.941-04:00Anonymous,
Thank you!!
I am so glad we can be h...Anonymous,<br /><br />Thank you!! <br /><br />I am so glad we can be here for each other.Michaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-24664147992145831052011-05-23T21:15:48.523-04:002011-05-23T21:15:48.523-04:00Thank you, Michaela, for that quick response! I re...Thank you, Michaela, for that quick response! I really wrote to you from the heart b/c I know exactly how you feel, and you really sound like a great person. In turn, you have helped me with your own experience with your biological dad, and I really appreciate your words of encouragement. <br /><br />I will definitely check out the website you recommended, and will also keep rooting for you and checking in on your inspirational journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-48639473435936888122011-05-23T21:03:17.184-04:002011-05-23T21:03:17.184-04:00Anonymous,
Thank you so much for your comments. I...Anonymous,<br /><br />Thank you so much for your comments. I do take them to heart and it means so much to me that you took the time to write me such meaningful comments. <br /><br />I am not sure if you have ever visited the Single Mothers by Choice website but they frequently have support and help with donor issues. <br /><br />I opted for an ID donor so that my child can contact that donor when they turn 18.<br /><br />Also, I know 1st hand that having a biological father does not mean you will have a dad. <br /><br />Mine left me when I was very little and believe me when I tell you, your little one will be fine because he or she has you!!Michaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10618189040042084629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-56626324007771313422011-05-23T20:47:58.591-04:002011-05-23T20:47:58.591-04:00Dear Michaela,
You sound like a wonderful girl, an...Dear Michaela,<br />You sound like a wonderful girl, and we have a lot in common.... I am a very private person, and I don't "blog", but your website and story was really compelling, so I thought I would reach out. <br /><br />I am also over 40, also waited for Mr. Right for a little too long, and eventually went on a quest to have a baby on my own, like you. After many tries of at home insemination, one IUI, and 2 IVFs, I got finally pregnant (the second IVF would have been my last, had it not worked). I just started my second trimester, and I totally understand that feeling of feeling incomplete if this doesn't happen for you. But I want to tell you about the "other side of the coin" too. Like you, when I found out I was pregnant, I was ecstatic. But as time has passed, I have started to worry (a lot) about the effects of what an anonymous donor father would have on my child, if all goes well and I actually deliver my baby. It does not help that I have read articles recently saying that children of anonymous donors recent the fact that they don't know who their father is and feel a sense of loss over this their whole life. <br />I guess I'm telling you about these doubts that I'm having because I want you to consider that nothing is perfect, even when you do become pregnant this way- there are pitfalls, and other things to worry about... <br />Maybe you will get pregnant with donor sperm in the future and you will not worry about the things I am worrying about, or maybe God has a different plan for you.<br />I guess what I'm saying is, trust that life for you is developing the way it's supposed to, and please don't let this issue ruin your life, or take the joy out of you. There are many paths to becoming a parent, and you will figure yours out, I'm sure. Being pregnant is fulfilling in many ways, but it does not resolve the difficult issue of dealing with the fact that, as single women, the baby will not have a biological father, ever. So please take heart, embrace whatever comes your way in knowing that this is what was meant for you, and hold on to your joy, no matter what comes. You sound like you deserve it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-55574801896491760942011-05-20T23:18:38.423-04:002011-05-20T23:18:38.423-04:00Oh sweetie, I can totally relate to that scene. I ...Oh sweetie, I can totally relate to that scene. I understand the way mother’s day can feel. I hated it. I cried like a maniac. And still do. I admire your strength that you are able to actually laugh at some of the days events. You are amazing, girl.Pattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11069371008875502190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5522541627583755823.post-2995632746708601112011-05-14T12:43:01.226-04:002011-05-14T12:43:01.226-04:00Mothers Day is hard. I'm not sure if it's...Mothers Day is hard. I'm not sure if it's worse to talk about cycles or to leave it as the elephant in the room... either way changes nothing... we end up feeling like crap and crying. I'm glad the day is over, for this year.BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14837140513071674102noreply@blogger.com