Of course now my one bedroom is worth a studio and I could get a two bedroom for just about what I paid for my one bedroom...
Ughhh...and yikes...but really it doesn't matter...the tides will change again and I LOVE my condo. I have no plans for moving...well at least for 5 years...
When I decided that I was going to take motherhood into my own hands, the plan was to turn my dining room/office into the nursery.
About three months before I got "the call"...feeling at my lowest...feeling that motherhood had slipped through my hands...I decided to put that plan into action. I put up a wall and created a nursery.
I felt that..."If I build it...they will come!"
And still to my amazement it worked!! She came and took up residency!!!
My little Ladybug has the cutest nursery! (if I do say so myself)...
But in order to make the world's cutest nursery I had to move some things around...and that included my office and two antique bookcases. Those bookcases are treasured possessions from my Grandma H who passed away in 2008.
These bookcases were moved to either side of my living room closet.
On these bookcase not only does it house books but it is the home to some of my most treasured items...ahhhh why wasn't piggy bank up there...I'm not sure why but for some reason piggy bank was always living in my entertainment center.
But on the bookcases...pictures of family...pictures on me with my best friends...dolls...nick nacks...glass figurines and a large round, hand painted ceramic of the astrological sign of Virgo...
The astrological sign of Virgo...my sign.
The hand painted ceramic of the astrological sign of Virgo was hand painted by me when I was little. I was with my father when I painted it. It's one of the very few memories I have...painting that ceramic...
That ceramic...like piggy bank...served as my memories and has been with me for over 30 years.
About a week ago sissy L was over helping me clean out the closet the lies in between the two bookcases.
Barely tapping the bookcase with the closet door...out of all the items living on those shelves...my hand painted ceramic of the astrological sign of Virgo found a way to propel itself off the bookcase and break....
It didn't shattered...which I am happy about...but there are a couple of chunks missing that I will have to paint over...it can't be glued like piggy bank...but it is salvageable...
When it happened I thought "Figures! Doesn't that fucking figure! Of all the things!"
I wasn't mad at sissy L...she barely tapped it...And I wasn't tormented by the sight of it broken...
I was eerily quiet and had a disturbing feeling...
I knew it was an omen...
Almost like the voice that told me right before my 2nd miscarriage: "You won't be pregnant in the summer." Predicting the end of my cherished pregnancy...
This voice said: "You're dad's going to die."
I didn't say this to sissy L.
I cleaned it up and we went about our day.
We went about our days...
I couldn't (and still can't) get the image of these broken items out of my head...broken but fixed...but yet still broken...
I feel like piggy bank...I'm broken but I've been glued back together...
I'm broken because I don't have a relation with my dad. I had one and then it was gone and that has broken me...
There will always be a part of me that is broken but over time with the love of my family and friends those broken pieces have been glued back together.
You might not see the cracks just by looking at me...
You might not know I've been glued back together...but in the end the reality is...I am broken...
A few days after Virgo took a header off the bookcase I received news that my father...my dad...due to injuries from his accident...wasn't going to make it...
He was being taken off all life support...
My step mother and step siblings set it up in the hospital so that my sisters and I would Skype in and say goodbye.
I cannot thank them enough for giving me the opportunity to do so...
I'm going to be honest...deathbed Skyping is something that should NEVER be trending.
It's beyond my vocabulary to describe how hard that was...how sad...how sweet...how moving...how traumatizing...how heartbreaking...
My sisters and I Skyped in...we said hello to our "step" family...my dad's family...
We laughed...we joked...we cried...we said our goodbyes...we expressed our gratitude...
The doctor came in...explained the situation...said amazing things about my dad...and then proceeded...
We waited...
Stories... tears...waiting...songs...my step brother sang a beautiful song to my dad...
It was obvious this was a song they all knew...I didn't know it...but it was beautiful...
Then in one moment...my step sister utter the words: "Daddy".
And suddenly I felt like an intruder...
Some kind of weird peeping Tom...I knew it was time to go...he was her daddy...he was their daddy...
He spent every day with them...Christmas mornings and Easter Sundays...
My Christmas mornings were over a long time ago...he wasn't my daddy anymore and he hadn't been for 30 years.
It was in that moment it became painfully clear that I wasn't ever going to be daddy's little girl...
My cracks were showing...
I ended the Skype...
Later that night little Ladybug woke up crying...she NEVER wakes up crying...this kid can sleep!!
As I was comforting her...I knew deep down that she is broken too...it's something I've always known...and her cracks will be deeper than mine...
I told her:
"I can't take it away baby. I wish I could but I can't take it away. I just pray that I am enough glue to hold those cracks together."
She quieted down and we cuddled together...
Sometime in those moments...my father passed away.
